- Producer11/12/2017Your Kid is Suspended While You’re at Work: Now What? You’re at work and things are going well. You get a call from your wife who is apparently driving somewhere because you hear the all too familiar sounds of traffic and wind in the background. She does not open her conversation with her normal...
Comments12/12/2017 #3 Lisa 🐝 GallagherReal life situations, I admire you're compassion and understanding @Dave Worthen. Family comes first even if you have to say, "Hey I have an important meeting but remember, we are in this together and as soon as I get home, we will deal with this together." Reassurance goes a long way but the words have to be backed up by deeds.11/12/2017 #2 Harvey LloydWow! The body slam of all psychological distress signals coming at one moment. In the early years this plagued me religiously. It always seemed that no matter how you thought the world was structured and order, many situations would hit at one time. That five minutes of understanding the kaleidoscope of brain signals was a mini version of hell on earth.
I started to realize though that life had priorities. Once these were established then the kaleidoscope went away. This did Not remove the consequences of choice. But i pre-decided that this was the order, regardless. Others saw my choice as challenging, but hey, i had to live with myself not them.
Great circumstantial moment to consider before it happens.
- Producer12/12/2017DAYDREAMNever in my life have I ever seen snow.I still claim winter would be my favorite season of all, since, in spite of me living in a tropical paradise, I haven’t ever been very much fond of hot summers or bright mornings. And I have heard and read...
- Producer06/05/2016I Come from a Land Down Under(The Brisbane River and CBD from Kangaroo Point cliffs.)So what do I do to while away the hours in the infamous penal colony of Australia, the land 'down under', which many of my fellow castaways refer to as the Land of Oz, or simply, Oz?Well I...
Comments07/05/2016 #16 Ken BoddieSorry my poetic license fooled you Louise. I've held an Aussie passport since 1991 but, as you know, that doesnt necessarily get me entry into Club Oz. There was a time when I held a UK, NZ and Aussie passport, to hedge my bets, to be see to be sure, but I'm now true blue Ocka - at least till you hear my accent, which fools everybody, including those of similar Scots heritage. I'm always considered to be from somewhere else. Fall out from being a citizen of the world in my youth (back when Adam was a lad). 🙁06/05/2016 #9 Kevin Pashuk#8 'Chunder' - Word of the day... and it means exactly what it sounds like. http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=chunder
- Producer11/12/2017It's a Bit Like When......it's a bit like when...... It really feels like winter on a cold morning of DecemberCausing mutual bother, two lovers avoid looking at each otherIf they were to take a moment to reflect, they would undoubtedly stumble on a perfect regretBesides, If...
Comments12/12/2017 #14 Pascal Derrien#13 gosh you are very good @🐝 Fatima G. Williams this one has been tricky to write and I had almost 15 versions before this one and it is not still the way I had it in my head. At some point I was very frustrated I could not find the right tune to go with it and then it turned out an irish band had written something almost perfect :-)12/12/2017 #13 🐝 Fatima G. WilliamsPascal I totally love this piece. It gets down to the ground reality of how relationships most people are obsessed with the idea of being left behind. This is not just when it comes to two people happens everywhere at work, in a competition, on social media, at home people don't want to be left behind. Totally love this. Thank you @Pascal Derrien11/12/2017 #5 Yogesh SukalI's a bit like when......
you see the amazing reinterpretation,
In the comment box of fellow bees mind,
Because i believe in each comment,
Individual inspires thought of some kind.
@🐝 Fatima G. Williams View moreI's a bit like when......
you see the amazing reinterpretation,
In the comment box of fellow bees mind,
Because i believe in each comment,
Individual inspires thought of some kind.
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- Producer11/12/2017The Power of SleepStruggling with your weight? Feeling bummed out? Sluggish during workouts? Or just sluggish in general? These are common complaints from new Precision Nutrition Clients. And poor diet isn’t always to blame.Everything from lucid thinking, to good...
- Producer11/12/2017Craft Making HoneyIt's time to let you Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee and all, know about the reason for not (appearing to) make honey, it's not because I've not been interested. Writing articles is most enjoyed, when I am focused and attuned to a topic, but...
Comments11/12/2017 #4 Isabella M H Wesoly@Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee Thanks so much dearest Ali, amongst music theorists I became more familiar with Pythagorean theorum and the magical way numbers arise in patterns of sound. The formula (for me) there was 'UP' = Understanding over Patience but to fiinally post and read from you certainly is 'a buzz. Happy Birthday! I couldn't have planned and shared this for a better day!11/12/2017 #2 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBeeSo thehoney is flowing again @Isabella M H Wesoly. Glad to hear you are arranging for your workshop. I wish you success. May be then you can share reports or stories from your workshop.
I know you are visual. I am not surprised to know how you helped your son remember formulas. But I assure you I need no formula to remember you as you are always alive in my memory.
- Producer10/12/2017عيد ميلاد سعيد يا صديقى العزيزHappy Birthday my Dear Friend Ali Anani فلسفة الحياة أيها ذا الشاكي وما بك داء كيف تغدو اذا غدوت عليلا ان شر الجناة في الارض نفس تتوخى قبل الرحيل الرحيلا وترى الشوك في الورود وتعمى ان ترى فوقها الندى اكليلا هو عبء على الحياة ثقيل من يظن الحياة عبئاً ثقيلاً والذي...
Comments11/12/2017 #30 Lisa VanderburgTo the man who enriches our lives with his gentle, joyful journey of juxtapositions; thank you dear, darling man @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. عيد ميلاد سعيد رجل رائع! and I'm late.....woe is me :(
Such a perfect buzz to find out - thank you @Laurent Boscherini!
- Producer08/12/2017Inspirations From NatureHere is a beautiful story share... One day i decided to quitI quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality… I wanted to quit my life.I went to the woods to have one last talk with god“God”, I asked,“Can you give me one good reason not to...
Comments11/12/2017 #34 Savvy Raj#29 Hope you are having a glorious birthday @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee And yes, in fact I must add that I have to rightaway dedicate this buzz title on Inspirations from nature to you for your buzzes are almost always connected to the nature of things elementally speaking. I have learned much from your brilliant and creative associations with examples from nature in your posts .Much goodwill and continue to shine your light my good friend @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee.10/12/2017 #28 Yogesh SukalI knew about the bamboo story, it will be as inspirational as always.
keep creating the art today, even its broken pieces may land in to the museum gallary one day. this positive thought occured in my mind while i visited the museum with antique items from sixteenth century which may be ordinary during that period, now becomes extraordinary as a vintage.
but one didn't have to wait centuries, magic happens everyday, just have to wait untill able to see it. Never give up. :)
Thank you for thought provoking buzz @Savvy Raj09/12/2017 #24 Carl E ReidThank you @Savvy Raj for sharing your inspiring story. To maintain our strong roots we must surround ourselves with an environment and people who can continue to nurture all our senses continuously. This creates mental toughness so "quitting" is eliminated from our psyche. I have been to a similar forest by running marathons :-)
- Producer10/12/2017The Evils of Medicare and its PractitionersYes—I’m back—sort of. It’s been a rough several months. I’m hoping it’s nearly over. I broke my damn foot in a pedicure bath—I got terribly ill—then I fell in the street....
Comments11/12/2017 #22 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee#21 Terrific advice. Jumping up and down mentally. (Can't do it physically with my knee like it is.)
Fortunately, in Mass, hospitals and doctors can't sue.for medical costs. Dentists can put it on your credit records--ambulance companies can do things... But we are more protected in Mass.
It's hard to think clearly when you're angry. I hope there are those that will copy your advice and keep it in a drawer somewhere.11/12/2017 #21 Phil Friedman#19 What is necessary, Joyce, is to require every hospital to have a Patients’ Advocate to ensure that the hospital administration chooses by default viable options that minimize out of pocket costs to the patient. Doctors will tell you they’re too busy. They provide services and leave the billing to ithers. But I wonder how many lives have been destroyed by reckless medical billing.
Hospitals rarely care a whit. Sometimes it’s not even a matter of greed, but of incompetence and lack if caring.
This is not intended as legal advice. But my approach in such cases is to refuse to pay (after you’ve been discharged), wait for them to sue, then offer a settlement equal to what you would have paid had they billed it correctly. And if you are capable represent yourself. They will almost slways become more concilliatory when you start serving notices to depose dictors and ither staff involved. For it costs you little and it costs doctors and highly paid administrators big bucks to spend their time being deposed during discovery. Oh, yes, and pepper them with requests for copies of internal documents . They hate that like the plague because of the possibilty of having errors exposed. Of course, if one has access to a good advocacy group, that is the way to go. Cheers!11/12/2017 #19 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee#18 Kudos, Phil. In one of these articles, it clearly states that medicare blames this one, and the providers claim its that one's fault, and so on. The main problem is the loophole. Providers take advantage of it.
The loophole needs to go. The hospital I stayed at clearly violated the law by not informing me of its impact. They really had no intention of helping me--just grabbing a few bucks. I'm fairly certain they do this lots. They were appalled when I called transport myself to get the hell out of there. They left me the wheelchair but sent the man away who could have wheeled me away. They held me up for an additional two hours (sitting in the hallway in a wheelchair, which I'm sure they believe they can charge me for.
I did speak to Medicare for at least an hour deconstructing my problem. The woman was informative and kind. She was a hardass at first, and then comforting. I appreciated her efforts to help me. I just wish I had been able to go to my regular hospital.11/12/2017 #18 Phil Friedman#14 No, @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee, you are missing the point. The NYT article that you cite clearly says that the HOSPITAL failed to inform the patient that she was not being admitted as an inpatient, then later refused admit that she should have been so admitted, which is why Medicare could not under its own rules pay. I'd bet 10 to1 that Medicare would have paid, if the hospital had simply admitted to an error and reclassified her as an inpatient for the stay. This kind of intransigence is common in my experience. I once ended up with a hospital bill for more than $6,000 for an emergency room visit because the hospital insisted on coding me as an outpatient instead of an emergency patient, which would have resulted in my paying zero out of pocket, since emergency treatment was covered 100% under the terms of my policy. The insurance company even agreed to pay 100% of the bill if the hospital would simply correct the coding, which the hospital refused to do. So I told the hospital to go pound sand when they billed me. They eventually sued and I beat their butts in court, embarrassing them in the process. Since they ended up with nothing and in paying my costs. But again the core point is that it was not the insurance company, but the service provider who was at fault. As is the case in the NYT article you yourself cite.11/12/2017 #17 Phil Friedman#12 @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee - I'm sure that your experience is not unique. But that is not the point. Medicare is a government-operated insurance plan much like private plans. And like private plans, Medicare has rules that result in different costs to the patient, depending on how the doctors and hospitals code the services provided, for example, whether the hospital treats you as an inpatient, outpatient, or emergency patient. The sad fact is that sometimes because of in-house rules laid down by greedy hospital administrators and sometimes out of sheers indifference or incompetence, hospital personnel fail to advise a patient how best to proceed in order to minimize out-of-pocket costs. But that is on the hospitals, not on Medicare, which rarely if ever questions the way services are coded by the provider. (cont.Pt II...)11/12/2017 #16 Phil Friedman#12 @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee, Pt. II...
A patient has always to be on guard, whether Medicare or a private insurer is involved. A couple of years ago, my daughter needed an MRI. Her doctor wrote the prescription and, because she was part of a hospital-owned medical group, her nurse sent my daughter to the hospital's Imaging Center. My wife, who accompanied my daughter, became suspicious when the tech in the Imaging Center said a co-pay was not necessary, as our policy specifies a flat co-pay for an MRI. Upon further investigation, my discovered that the hospital's Imaging Center wanted to treat my daughter as an outpatient, which would have resulted (because of our deductible) in an out-of-pocket cost to us of $2,700. So my wife and daughter walked out of there, went to a freestanding independent Imaging firm around the corner, and paid a flat $200 co-pay for the very same services -- all according to the insurance company's rules.
There is no doubt it's complicated. And there is a failure to provide counsel to patients to assure that their case is handled in a manner that minimizes out-of-pocket costs to them. However, that is a failure of the service providers, the doctors' groups and the hospitals, not of the insurance companies or of Medicare. And while I do not question that you were not well treated, I reiterate my original assertion that you are blaming the wrong party.11/12/2017 #15 Brian McKenzieThe confisgation of personal property, assets, accounts and wages was buried in the 2600 pages of ObamaCare. Not only can the theft be triggered by medical services but failure to pay premium / be enrolled in the exchanges.
It will remain that way as long as the IRS is in charge of administraing the cash flow.
Enjoy.11/12/2017 #14 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBeeI can see people are missing the point.
http://nysbar.com/blogs/lawstudentconnection/2012/02/observation_status_why_a_medic.html11/12/2017 #12 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee#11 I do not believe my experience is unique. The graphics I present speak for themselves, Phil. Observation is a process by which profits are maximized. Had they informed me, I would have declined. I would have accepted the results of my X-rays and gone home with the same plan I had now. But they insisted I see the Ortho through this uniformed Observation process. She could have just called me at home today. They also prescribed Oxycodone, which I had informed them I wouldn't take. Just a personal preference. I thought they prescribed Percosett.
They led me to believe rehab would be possible. Not so with the Observation process.
You know you are correct about Medicare and Medicaid. However, here in Mass, these programs often go hand-in-hand. Poverty levels are so low here in Mass that it nearly impossible for elderly/disabled to qualify. Maybe it's different in Florida.
I have chosen to pay my own way. It's what I've always done. I will do so for as long as possible. I just hope I run out before the money does.11/12/2017 #11 Phil Friedman#9 Sorry, not only have I researched the matter in choosing my own coverage options after reaching Medicare age, but my wife was for many years the Programs Director of a private non-profit agency that distributed federal and state funds to programs that served the elderly of Broward County, Florida. As such, she also liaised with the Medicare Administration and state Medicaid, as well as with several agencies that assisted elderly and infirm patients with securing the benefits they were entitled to under law and regulation. What is it specifically that I've said which you believe is incorrect?10/12/2017 #8 Phil Friedman@Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee, I sympathize with your difficulties, but what you are doing here is not right. Medicare is medical insurance provided by yhe government. It doesn’t have any medical “practitioners”. Medicare is a distinct program from Medicaid, which latter is primarily a program for the very poor or nearly indigent,, and it has limits for qualificatio that include maximum tangible personal assets to prevent people from owning, say, a million dollars in real estate, while receiving Medicaid benefits because of low income. I have no doubt that you may have been treated badly, but that is on the doctors , the hospital, and the social workers. It has nothing to do with Medicare itself. And it is wrong for you to potentially mislead the uninformed into thinking Medicare is a bad program. For it is not. As I and many if my acquaintances know from experience.10/12/2017 #3 Ken BoddieHey Joyce, I hope this cheers you up. Santa Clause, the tooth fairy, an effective and practical Medicare manager and a drunk were walking down the street when they spotted a one hundred dollar note. Who picked it up?
The drunk obviously because the others are purely fictional Characters. 😄
- Producer10/12/2017Listicles for Testicles Welcome to the first installment of Listicals for Testicles: A numberated introduction to MGTOW. Men Going Their Own Way is an awareness that the long series of lies that we have been spoonfed through our childhood no longer hold power over us. ...
Comments10/12/2017 #6 Brian McKenzie#2 as long as the laws are what they are - no man should enter the casino unprepared. The deck is stacked high and tall against the guys. If I help them avoid the shit show - i consider that a win. I need to brush up on my literary cues - I am not sure where the F*ck I buried Satire in there.10/12/2017 #3 Kevin BakerI still believe in the possibility of success in marriage. More marriages end because of out side influence then influence with in. Each day we choose either to remain or leave. No law's, or a piece of paper will bring about the effort it takes to live commitment. When two people have troubles, the last thing they should be doing is turning out ward for direction. How quickly we forget the day we decided to commit and the very reasons why. Regardless of adversity, I remain optimistic.10/12/2017 #2 Robert CormackHa, ha, @Brian McKenzie, to all of us who have suffered through divorce, you've spoken the words we thought in anger, only to realize, once we start doing donuts in the living room, it won't be long before we're blowing our noses into shirt sleeves and leaving the seat down on the toilet just to piss on it. We can get by without women, just as women can get by without men, but my best friends are still women and, as I tell them, neither of us can fuck a bicycle (although something tells me you've tried). Wonderful satire, Brian. Now get your dick out of the spokes. We're in for a busy ride with everything that's happening today, but already women are breaking away from the feminist agenda, saying they'd rather have a ratty man than a feminist telling them everything will be great without men. They know it won't, we know it won't. Both sexes are here on this earth to compliment each other's weaknesses. The "Blame Game" will end.10/12/2017 #1 Phil FriedmanBrian, if I may make a suggestion — other than printing this out, then burning it — the correct spelling of “listical” is “listicle”, which would be much catchier to the eye in your title. To wit, “Listicles for Testicles”.
I’d also suggest a sub-title, “Misogyny As Religion”.
Thanks for offsetting the almost constant stream on the platform of honey-laced treacle. I find being provoked by satire far preferable to being lulled into somnambulence. Cheers!
- Producer10/12/2017In Times of TribulationsAh, what a person ought to do in times of tribulations? Perhaps, the best remedy is to practice patience. Yes...because patience is a luminous beauty, it’s a modest silence, a communicating spirit and a steady power.Oftentimes, our sufferings are an...
Comments10/12/2017 #5 Mohammed A. Jawad#4 @Harvey Lloyd Thanks for reading and I do appreciate your pensive reflections. There's concise wisdom in your writings that one can measure word by word. I like what you say, and indeed, when things go beyond our expectations and what we get is something different, then there's the subject of wishful contentment, and not mere delayed patience out of no options.10/12/2017 #4 Harvey Lloyd@Mohammed A. Jawad if we think about the words that describe character like, patience, we are really defining it in others not ourselves. My own patience is difficult to measure from my own perspective.
But it still begs the question of why some are patient and some not? Is it percerverance or some other trait?
C.S Lewis states that actions emerge from expectations. If we expect one thing and get another then our character will be tested.
When I see true leadership I see individuals that first test their expectations then review what they received/experience.
Eating out at a fast food eatery and expecting 5 star service and quisene will set us up for conflict.
Leadership carries the extra burden of not only tempering our own expectations but anticipating expectations of customers, employees and markets.
If we can measure our expectations to reality then patience and perseverance come naturally.
A side note. When engaged with someone experiencing negative characteristics. Engage in a discussion of expectations not the negative. You will be amazed at how this moves emotion to logical thinking. Not always perfect but will remove your own fuel from the fire.
- Producer10/12/2017The Conflict AnimalsXmas is approaching and it is about time to turn conflicts into peace. This is easier said than done. However; the cost of conflict may reach an explosion point and nobody benefits. Conflicts are of different types. How can we fuse the possible...
Comments11/12/2017 #35 Joanne Gardocki#21 "So if i could replace your word ego with vanity or megalomania then i agree wholeheartedly with your comment. I believe you were say the same thing. I thought the distinction was worth further comment." thank you for the clarification, @Harvey Lloyd View more#21 "So if i could replace your word ego with vanity or megalomania then i agree wholeheartedly with your comment. I believe you were say the same thing. I thought the distinction was worth further comment." thank you for the clarification, @Harvey Lloyd. I look at ego a bit differently but find common ground in what you are saying. For me, "ego" is anything that would block my highest positive abilities or highest connection with others in a given situation. Absolutely, ego could be seen as the pride/vanity/megalomania you mention at the extreem end. However, being too timid to speak your truth or simply failing to really listen/connect with another is also how I see ego blocking highest positive potential. Simon Sinek has a lot to say in YouTube and TED Talks about how we make decisions and the characteristics of Leadership. Our primitive brain is highly involved and often beneath our conscious awareness, your advice to clear the Pandora's Box in meditative conditions to avoid cleaning up a mess later is akin to clearing our emotional baggage. There is good reason Emotional Intelligence is a key skill in leaderhship. Thank you for your insights and the opportunity to explore more deeply. Close11/12/2017 #33 Tausif Mundrawala#32 You have always quenched my thirst of knowledge by bringing forth these wonderful buzz in form of live examples. Am glad that you have always provided a constructive feedback in order to go ahead in life. Am glad that you did, Sir @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee11/12/2017 #32 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#31 I am very grateful to your comment dear @Tausif Mundrawala. You bring to light two important points. First your reference to Salman's Rushdi quote "He has described those men with hunger of power with heads of different animals". This is a real extension to the discussion. Instead of wearing many hats we have people with different heads of animals. You stretch my imagination with this quote.
Second- you are the first to highlight the idea of repellent. I am thankful to you for this. Sometimes repelling a conflict rather than deal with it is an effective solution.
You are widser than your age my friend.11/12/2017 #31 Tausif MundrawalaWhen two people don't agree with a given statement, logic, concept , reality etc than the animal of conflict comes into existence. Each party tries to prove themselves superior and with this motive they try to ruin the person at the other end with full ferocity. Am currently reading 'Shalimar-The Clown'- Salman Rushdie where a character of an ambassador tells a story to his daughter about the levels of power one trudges through in order to reach the top. He has described those men with hunger of power with heads of different animals. He starts with jackal and ends with fox. Each tries to create a hurdle in their respective rooms. Life itself is a conflict of different ideas, views, opinions etc where it need not be the other person but our very own self.
As far as the topic of repellent goes than we can get rid of pests by spraying heena or mehandi, red chilly powder works for cats who have the habit to get out doorstep dirty, burning of a jute sack helps get rid of mosquitoes and the list goes on and on. Thanks for this wonderful buzz, Sir @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee11/12/2017 #30 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#29 great comment @Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee. Yes and we have internal conflicts all the time. How many time we experince conflict of choices, conflicts between what our minds tell us and what our hearts want us to do. In oeder to deal with external conflicts we need to tackle our internal ones. May be @Harvey Lloyd would share his wisdom on your comment Joyce11/12/2017 #29 Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBeeConflict--hmmmmm. I found myself thinking of conflict as someone else's problem. In thinking further, I know I am first submissive, and then rise to the occasion if it's something I cannot escape. I found myself musing about sitting on a country road--sitting quietly while a herd of cattle crossed. The cattle represented the conflict. Where do we draw the line as to what is conflict and what is merely being assertive I wonder?11/12/2017 #27 Yolanda Ávila - Kaizen ProyectosI remember that I mentioned this topic in another buzz. That time I recommended to see this TEDX that offers a positive approach to the conflict.
Jung thought that conflict is the essence of Life and that it is a necessary requirement for all personal and spiritual growth.
I agree with him.
Life can not be lived in the abstract.
Only through confrontation with any individual conflict, for its resolution or transcendence, do we reach the depths of ourselves.
Best Regards @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee11/12/2017 #25 Harvey Lloyd#24 I believe that "popularity" of word grows when folks use the word as a label. The label or need for one may exist, but all to often, like marketing, we want catchy quick words that will stick. Ego is one such word and matter of fact so is lust. Each of these words have natural existence within our lives. A lust for writing is appropriate where lust for the neighbors wife is not.
Being confident and secure in your leadership is ego but browbeating someone who upstaged you is not ego it's pride/vanity. It may also be considered egotistical behaviour, but is still sourced in pride and vanity. We all have ego.11/12/2017 #24 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#21 @Harvey Lloyd- you remind me of my recent buzz on lust. It has negative meaning mostly. I have lust for writing. There is nothing wrong with this. Now you add another example- being egoist. Sometimes the meaning is only possible within the framework of contest.11/12/2017 #23 Harvey Lloyd#11 "It is all too easy to be mowed over by the "shoulds" and "demands" of the season. In a stressed state, we all come one step closer to giving our internal "animal" free rein."
In our day of drama laden communication it is so easy to pick up the "hot-Potato". Showing my age here.
In construction the hot-potato was always someone who was in trouble on a project and they needed to hand off the hot-potato. This cleared them of responsibility and set you up for the fall. Simple yet effective "negotiating tactic"
In those days i had to learn how to assist without taking the potato. In some cases i just walked away.
Today they i sense that folks want us to emotion match as their is strength in numbers. This is the same thing as the yesteryear hot-potato.
I don't accept being mowed over from the start. When i sense the hot-potato being served up i know instinctively to listen, reflect and redirect or walk away. On rare occasions i will accept the potato with all the risk, but i am choosing and not being set up blindly.
Ps. my animal brain operates more like a pandora's box, once opened all of it has to exit before the lid can be placed back,. I would imagine its like this for more than would admit. Best to empty the box in meditative conditions than have to clean up the aftermath. Beware the hot-potato:)11/12/2017 #22 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#20 brilliant thoughts my dear @Lisa Vanderburg. Your reference to the internal beast is consistent with a previous comment. What I really find novel in your gorgeous comment is our tendency to "but we tend to turn away from others when our space gets to crowded and the sense of unsolvable global NEED becomes overwhelming". This is an expanded example of going against the crowd effect. You touched upon a hugely-interesting idea. I believe you should consider expanding it to a buzz. This is novelty thinking my friend.11/12/2017 #21 Harvey Lloyd#11 The word ego has always been a challenge. It seems to have taken on a very negative connotation. But i believe it is natural not only within males, strongly but also females.
Ego, or at least my definition, is the acting out of what we believe with great passion and motivation. The dictionary discusses this as "self esteem and or self importance".
I want my doctor, firefighter or policeman to have ego. I believe we have cross defined ego with "megalomania" and "vanity"
If you have collected all the information, data and resources and challenged your team with the concept of the success you propose, you should have ego, self esteem and self importance.
When the poo-poo hits the fan it is rather interesting that we all want the one with "ego" to lead us to safety. The one who shows confidence, believes in the plan or is willing to bet their own safety to include others.
So if i could replace your word ego with vanity or megalomania then i agree wholeheartedly with your comment. I believe you were say the same thing. I thought the distinction was worth further comment.11/12/2017 #20 Lisa VanderburgAs always, a buzz to make me think, dear @Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee!! And with the highest quality of comments you always attract so well addresses, it behooves me to be the devil's advocate :)
When is conflict a good thing?
I sometimes wonder, for example; we seem to stand on the precipice of annihilation or a momentous leap to a higher being (in which case at least half of humanity won't make it...me included!). It's almost as if we need war to quell our internal beast. Clearly, it's out of the question on so many levels, but we tend to turn away from others when our space gets to crowded and the sense of unsolvable global NEED becomes overwhelming. Just thoughts......11/12/2017 #17 Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee#16 uh very interesting comment @CityVP 🐝 Manjit. This is interesting that mosquitoes kill more humans than any animal. You remind me of thre Arab poet who said more than a thousand years ago
Do't belittle a small person in a conflict... for a mosquitoe can bleed the eye of a lion.
Equally interesting the adaptation style of Bruce Lee. This is a hreat lesson for adaptations from other animals at its best.
Only humans can tell stories. Your comment is a beautiful one.11/12/2017 #16 CityVP 🐝 ManjitThe first thing I will focus on here is focus on our improvement of understanding of animal intelligence. Except for the mosquito the only other animal that represents a major danger to human beings are other human beings. Trailing far behind in the most dangerous animal league are snakes and dogs.
Mosquitoes Kill More Humans than Human Murderers
The human being who most understood animal intelligence as in conflict animals in modern times is the iconic martial artist and martial arts actor Bruce Lee. He drew on the five animal styles of kung fu in his own more flexible adaptation called Jeet-Kun-do
Bruce Lee - Jeet Kune Do
Bruce Lee understood two things, martial arts should be open to all rather than a closed discipline and that the best adaptation is examine every style and school and then create a non-mechanistic martial art. Here his adaptation of the five animal styles had more to do with teaching people their own authentic way rather than another method. Since Bruce Lee was a student of western philosophy as much eastern martial arts, he blended both into a truly holistic form. In short animal intelligence was something he could adapt. In his case he did not adapt to that which he feared but which represented movements of life and being.
- Producer07/12/2017225 Million and Counting''I am a foreigner in a foreign land and no matter how long I stay here I will always be a foreigner but not necessarily an outsider'' Paul Walters Their names could be Ahmed, Maria, Chang or Maciek they would all have an individual story and...
Comments10/12/2017 #38 Mohammed A. JawadIn the aegis of humanity, we all are human beings. Aren't we? And, we by man made rules, degrade each other and label people by this name or the other. We all belong to diverse nations, cultures and languages so that we may know each other and treat well, not to nickname and ridicule others by downgrading them. Great post @Pascal Derrien09/12/2017 #35 Pascal Derrien#34 thanks @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher for sharing everyday examples, I think we all have them around us, we need to give proper credit to those who have taken giant steps to better their lives or is it simpler to play it down because attacking is a reflection on one's self inability :-)09/12/2017 #34 Lisa 🐝 GallagherWhat a great piece @Pascal Derrien! We are all humans that inhabit planet earth and no one gave another the rights (with the exception of man) to make boundaries impossible to cross. I remember the Berlin wall and when it came down. I remember crying and that was the best thing that happened for many who were separated from their families, by class and more- They are a prime example of how East and West Berlin were able to come together and find common ground along with not being isolated anymore.
I admire others who move to foreign lands and learn the customs, the languages and build new friendships because you are right, that is something I would find very difficult and scary. But, the lessons each person learns from the other is invaluable, without walls- they build understanding for humanity; compassion!
I hope we do not 'build that wall,' between the US and Mexico. It takes a lot of courage and determination to come to the US with the hopes of becoming a citizen in order to make a better life for their families. I have 2 step sisters that are married to Mexican men and I can attest their husanbs work hard, put family first and even put their wives on a pedestal. They both are citizens now but it wasn't easy. My step brother in law's mother is allowed to visit X days per year and I fear she will lose that right. She has taught my step sister and her children so much as well.
Walls are ruses. I'm a big believer in inclusive societies. I hope to see more inclusion before I leave this earth. Right now, my hopes are dimmed a lot. If people really got to know others from many cultures/races they may let go of their xenophobia. Xenophobia is media and mass society produced.09/12/2017 #33 Brian McKenzie#23 I have been out of America for the last 5 years, I have no intention of going back. Prior to leaving the military sent me around the world and into the shit 9 times, none of the on ground events matched the lies they were spooling up about the 'actions' back home. DITTO for the "Migrant Crisis". It has been fully planned, engineered and prepetrated by high levels of gov't and banking. Studying livestock and ranching is instructive, they consider us nothing more than meat for the machine to be herded and slaughtered as they wish.08/12/2017 #32 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador#31 Yep, I understand. People judge others by their accent yet know nothing about the person. I don't have a distinct accent from any part of the US which I prefer not to.
My mother had a heavy southern accent and took some sort of training to get rid of it. I'm guessing her training was sometime in the 1950s. She sang professionally and I am assuming that was the reason for her wanting to shed her accent.
I love to hear accents, especially from the UK.08/12/2017 #31 Pascal Derrien#30 thanks @Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador I lived in a caravan the first 3 years of my life and then did 3 schools per year on average because we were moving from/to border towns near the 4 or five countries around france I never had the right accent story of my life :-)08/12/2017 #30 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand AmbassadorBravo, Pascal. One that lives in the U.S. and if born in NY and moves to Kansas, can feel like a foreigner. Definition of foreigner: a person in or from a country other than one's own. Well, duh - isn't this what makes life interesting?08/12/2017 #26 Harvey Lloyd#25 I'm OK with the bias in principal as we cant really not hear or see beyond what we are exposed to. My challenge is that we take this limited exposure and then form actionable opinions. The southern accent was always an ice breaker with the turnip truck jokes but it was in jest and i didn't take offense. I got learn their culture and they mine.
Today is different though. Fear based presentations of the 10% have now spread to define whole cultures. Naturally the natives extend this fear across all unknowns. The bias has now pushed back to the outsider to prove they are "safe".
Bias cant be helped, but with executive function we can examine that bias before we act in any setting. Unfortunately executive function seems to be devolving back to cave painting.
You would be welcome around here boss. If you do get around the US let me know i have two sleeping pills waiting. I need you take that nap and finish the hung up airplane story.08/12/2017 #24 Harvey LloydThis is a very challenging topic, but very interesting. Especially if you come from we are all human perspective. Why do natives tend to reject outsiders naturally? I have never lived abroad, pretty much a homeboy. Yet when traveling north in the US, my southern accent i was always treated as though the turnip truck must have broke down nearby.
My own theory, after experiencing this many times over twenty years, was that folks had a portrait of southerners that was born from nebulous conversations that were harmless, yet formed the opinion. I also recognized that i was an ambassador of the South:) Overtime i made some great Yankee friends and we all laughed at the differences. Yanks are pretty straight forward about their thoughts, southerners tend to flavor thoughts with mystery to keep you guessing.
Cultural differences i am sure were felt when we were more nomadic in life as tribes had to figure out who was safe and who was not. Different traditions, morals and values are difficult to understand if they have not been part of your narrative. I believe there is a onus upon each side to understand the dance steps of figuring each other out.
Media today though has really planted some ill seeds of cultures, keeping the dance from happening.
- Producer09/12/2017Rip Johnny Hallyday (1943-2017)December 9, 2017 / Paris - Place de la Madeleine Jean-Philippe Léo Smet (15 June 1943 – 6 December 2017), better known by his stage name Johnny Hallyday , was a French rock and roll and pop singer and actor. In a career spanning 57 years, Hallyday...
- Producer10/12/2017MisogynyIf you search for Common Senseit is very hard to find.You can't have the space you need to sit.But if you look for truthfulnessYou might just as well be blind.It always seems to be so hard to get.Misogyny is such an ugly word.Everyone is so...
Comments11/12/2017 #5 Brian McKenzie#3 You should see the stuff that never airs here. The classes for the guys I coach are way darker - they pass cold and move to a comfortable numb in stoic apathy and indifferent heartless moods. A full recipe to excise the tactics and idioms that are the game women and the state play. Walden is the launchpad - it gets dark and deep from there.
- Producer16/04/20163 Keys to Master Media Relations in Digital AgeIn nightmares, CEOs and senior executives cringe about the companies they lead being devoured by the so-called Media Beast. These bad dreams are punctuated by banner headlines and viral stories exemplifying program or policy deficiencies, which...
Comments09/12/2017 #22 CityVP 🐝 ManjitThe art of communication is a bucket I relate to leadership rather than marketing and that is why I separate communication and journalism from branding and marketing.
PR is the function stuck between the world of journalism and the world of marketing and so the question for any PR person is whether they recognize skills used by a communicator like David Axelrod or propaganda merchant like Edward Bernays. In this example we need an Axelrod or a George Lakoff to expose incredibly sophisticated propagandists like the "Father of PR" Bernays. Either way it is the road less travelled, I simply am not too interested in the mucky middle of the road marketer, this buzz brings insights that are found at the heart of these matters.
What I read here shows me a communicator who has been on both sides of the communication divide, between the inward facing camera's and the firing line of communication and well honed media skills.26/04/2017 #18 David B. GrinbergThanks so much @Lisa 🐝 Gallagher and @Gert Scholtz! You are both super awesome and I'm grateful for your valuable support, as always. I hope you're having (Lisa) and had (Gert) a wonderful Wednesday.
The buzz is definitely growing louder thanks to the two of you and the exemplary examples you set as beBee ambassadors.13/10/2016 #9 depand narrakhttp://hbcbet-id.com You should write about the model/version on the blog. You can expose it's perfect. Your blog examination should widen your readership.I am really grateful for your blog post. I find a lot of approaches after visiting your post. Great work..looking for affordable and trusted hosting?come and visit http://dewasbobet.com16/04/2016 #1 Qamar Ali KhanThis is a wonderful insight @David B. Grinberg! Your observations and analysis are absolutely spot on. Being close, sincere, and truthful with media people can do magics for an organization.
Unfortunately, as you indicated, the main media is occupied by some big tycoons. These people are ruthless. They never care about any human factor when presenting a story. They can make someone overnight and sink the other one in hours. The problem actually starts there. So, many reporters and journalists, I'm not talking about all, have become a sort of blackmailers. Within all these highly adverse environment for positive organizations, your analysis and those excellent tips are the best solution to forge good relations with media. Thank you very much for such a brilliant buzz :-)
- Producer09/12/2017The Scourge of Reading.The hilarious, shocking and frequently goofy reasons we give for not picking up a book (or thinking).“I’m probably bad at reading.” Heidi KlumIf you’ve got stunning legs, reading isn’t necessary — or that’s what we have to assume with Heidi Klum....
Comments10/12/2017 #10 Phil FriedmanReading is not dead, @Robert Cormack, only reading anything that takes more than 2.735 minutes to finish. Evidence all the digital publishing platforms that place a notice of time to read at the top of each article. Then there is the separate issue of understanding -- low audience CA (comprehension ability) combined with LAS (low attention span) and DV (deficient vocabulary) motivates some would-be authors to seek help from Hemingway (the app, not the author) to get their writing edited down to a third-grade level. The worst part of it all is that satire is more often than not like pearls cast before swine. Good piece. Cheers!09/12/2017 #6 Randall Burns#4 #5 #3 Just for the record I probably have a better insight into bakers and pastry chefs than any one else here, (working with them for 40 years), not only are they my colleagues but many, if not most have become very good friends, they are "good peeps". and drawing from my unique and intimate insights and experience with them I can honestly tell you that not all of them are illiterate. I think that @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian can vouch for that as well.
And as Pablo says no need to apologize, none of us have any delusions as to what we are or what we are not. ;-) Fuck, if we can "give it out" then we better damn well be able to take it.09/12/2017 #2 Randall Burns#1 Actually your are the exception to the rule @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian regarding bakers and pastry chefs LMAO! Great post @Robert Cormack and in the kitchen there are 3 types of Cooks;
- Those that make things happen
- Those that witness things happening
- And those that wonder "What happened?"
(probably safe to say that just the first category actually reads)09/12/2017 #1 Paul "Pablo" CroubalianLove it, Robert, even if you do poop on pastry chefs a little. I went to culinary school as part of my bucket list for both Professional Cooking and Pastry. I still find time to read.
I shared this to Twitter to give it a vote for the Best of beBee eZine, which, yes, will be Kindel-only. LOL
- Producer07/12/2017Nobody is perfect.It was a sunny Sunday morning when I was walking into the mall. My cellphone rang. I answered immediately with a big smile on my face: “Hola!” I said gaily, as usual.We talked for about 18 minutes or so, and all of a sudden, something terrible...
Comments09/12/2017 #19 Yolanda Ávila - Kaizen ProyectosHello Lupita,
That's the attitude!
''It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters'' (Epictetus)
''Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to i'' (Charles R. Swindoll)
Do you know what my whatsapp status says? https://goo.gl/jxC2bk
Always Look on the bright side of life
Have a nice day.09/12/2017 #18 Lisa 🐝 Gallagher@Lupita 🐝 Reyes, I adore your enthusiasm for life, it's contagious. I'm sorry that man spoke to you in the manner he did but I'm glad to hear you worked through it in your mind and moved on. Your parents sound like they were (are?) great people! Your dad's humor spoke volumes. You wrote, "From my own experience, I could say that the key to making the difference in other’s lives is HELP. Authentic help. From the heart." I find this to be so true, when you are helping others, you are not focusing on yourself and even if we think we aren't making a difference in another's life, we can and do- they may not tell us verbally because some people have a hard time accepting help but I know from experience, people treasure it. Thanks for sharing this story!08/12/2017 #10 Bernard PoulinDear Lupita,
The "quote" you brought forward pales before your essay. Yours are the real words of wisdom. Thank you also for the title. I have an aversion to the concept of best (an illusion of having given all that we have) and perfect (an illusion that it is even possible). Perfection is not of this world (thankfully) otherwise there would be no room for the encouraging notion of excellence - i.e. : being the best we can be today knowing that we can best even that tomorrow. Again, thank you.
- Producer08/12/2017How to Detect or Find Plagiarism, Free Anti-Plagiarism SoftwarePlagiarism, more simply - copied material or prose presented as one's own intellectual creation - is a major problem facing high schools and universities. Cheating on tests, examinations, or research papers is a common problem at all levels...
- Producer08/12/2017"Quoteful Shots" with Yogesh Sukal : Buzz 6Dear reader, these are my few thoughts inspired with the photoshots captured at various places I recently explored.Continuation from the following blog series of "Quoteful Shots" with Yogesh Sukal, -Buzz 2, -Buzz 3, -Buzz4, -Buzzz5, Museum...
Comments09/12/2017 #14 Lisa 🐝 GallagherBeautiful and unique images that capture your message @Yogesh Sukal. I hope one day we all become much more tolerant and universal. After all, we are all humans inhabiting planet earth. Each picture tells a beautiful story and I love how you used them in succession to make your points. Cheers to a inclusive world!09/12/2017 #12 Yogesh Sukal#9 Thank you so much @David B. Grinberg for encouraging note. I always admire your space enthusiasts mind with your buzzes and comments. Indeed colonizing our solar system is realistic for us right now and yes hoping to see the progress with Mars and Europa. The speed of light is indeed a big deal 🙂
Hence to dream with speed of thoughts. I just recall @Pascal Derrien buzz letter to next generation.
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@pascal-derrien-leinster/captain-j-p-drien-i-wrote-you-a-letter09/12/2017 #9 David B. GrinbergWow, what a spectacular blogging buzz, Yogesh. I'm a big fan of this continuing series. I really admire your selection of great photos/images/video matched to unique/original quotes. My favorite, of course: "The true inspiration of becoming a global,
Is to dream about extending it beyond the solar system to become one day universal."
I only hope we at least see the day where humans colonize our own solar system, the very first baby step of going intergalactic. All we need to reach distant galaxies is to figure out how to travel or exceed light speed, which is equivalent to 186,000 miles per second or 6 trillion miles per year? No big deal, right? (LOL)
BEE well, my friend and keep buzzing!
- Producer08/12/2017The First Symptoms Of The Death Of DemocracyFor the past several years I have been watching as democracy, as we used to know it back in the day, is slowly eroding into a strange form of lawlessness.And a lot of this erosion has precisely to do with the medium on which you are reading this.The...
Comments10/12/2017 #19 Harvey LloydI will have to agree to a point, the damning news of individuals showing up with these accusations, does give one pause as leaders are falling from key junctures.
I don't believe that ""Power" knows gender, democrat, republican or any other label. Power is an absolute that one can find themselves within, and determine the fate of others. Men and their egos seem to take bad turns more frequently than women, but power is alluring to both/all.
I can remember my dad at a young age hollered at the tv and my mom would let him know he was hollering at inanimate objects. Today this is known as the offline rant. The flash of emotion gone the next day. Now we don't have to holler at the devices in our life, we can holler at everyone that will listen or not.
I am not sure we are ready to hold this "Power" of unlimited opinions and posting. A single rant is somewhat powerless, yet when we couple huge swaths of rants into a group we can develop momentum power. I don't believe we as a species understand the full scope of our ranting when they are join together.
Zuckerberg will either go down as the most brilliant social triumph or as the beginning of the end.10/12/2017 #18 Pamela 🐝 Williams#17 Take it form someone who went to HR, their jobs are not about taking care of the workers but to protect the company. That is the unrealistic view employees have of HR that they will stand up to CEOs, VPs, Managers that act unprofessionally. In was written up for insubordination and my life was made pure hell. I eventually left the company. I have no use for HR other than to discuss benefits.09/12/2017 #17 Erroll -EL- WarnerMy question is, where were all those CEOs when sexual harassment was taking place in their company? The American Media thinks it is the voice of all American, yet could detect sexual harassment in their own rank. Where were those Human Resources managers? Why haven't we heard from any CEO as yet which would some assurance to associates in the workplace? Just the -OLD BOYS CLUB- in operation.09/12/2017 #15 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsSTART PART 2
Money, "The root of all evil" is all the trumpions cared about, not humanity, not their stupid fears of anyone who is different from their privileged white-skinned homophobic self-serving idiot selves. Women should have a voice but I've got news for all of them; you are playing right into the GOP's hands, or haven't you noticed it's mainly the liberals who are being outed? Do you really think that this a coincidence? Congratulations, you're still being manipulated, just like you were during the election. Many of the women who came out against the imbecile during the election had their very lives threatened by the extreme right, do you think that stopped? IDIOTS I don't blame the DEM leaders for leaving; who wants to protect and fight for people who treat them like this?
When they tax you into bankruptcy, when you're all bowing to the 1%, when you're no more than servants to the corporations with no benefits, no healthcare, and no one who will stand up for you, I'll be laughing my ass off. I've been poor before, I know how to do it.09/12/2017 #14 Pamela 🐝 WilliamsThis week during lunch a very conservative co-worker laughingly reported that Franken was resigning. He was gleefully happy. I felt my blood pressure rising and I couldn't help it, I said it; "Yes now lets replace him with a GOP pedophile". What Franken did was wrong, but you're right, no due process. Yet, that piece of garbage in Alabama is seeing support from every corner. Everyone has told me I'm being too pessimistic, that the US is such a great country, that we'll come out of this, but we're not. With each passing day those monsters in DC are turning this country into a Fascist nation. Radio hosts are allowed to threaten Civil War if we get rid of the demented Tyrant sitting in the white house, they continue to support a fascist congress. I have no forgiveness left for those who caused this with their vote. It was obvious what was going to happen and they still want to blame a man who had more integrity in the tip of his little finger than all these ignorant backwards voters have in their combined bodies. Let's face it; they could not stand having a Black Man leading this country. He brought us out of the collapse that the GOP caused, he rallied a country living in fear for their livelihood. He fought for the entire country, stood up to Putin, and he did it with no support from Congress. Everyone fell for the propaganda, hook, line, and sinker. Well, I'll scream it from the housetops: I loved and miss the Obama's!!!!! END PART 109/12/2017 #12 Lisa 🐝 GallagherWhen the #MeToo movement first began, I thought... wow, women can finally find their voices and let go of pain they endured hence, moving on. As much as I am all for women speaking out, it's been my fear in recent days that this has become more a play on politics using people as sacrificial lambs instead of allowing them due process. Franken IS a prime example of the sacrificial lamb. He asked for his own ethics committee investigation and yet that wasn't enough, the Democrats went full throttle on him without giving him the chance to prove that the allegations were all true or not. I'm not going to sugar coat this, I am angry as hell that playing politics with people's lives, should that surprise me in today's environment, NO. But, It disgusts me. He is a sitting Senator, unlike Moore whose running for a Senate seat. Personally, if they are going to go this far with demanding resignations within the bodies of Congress and the Senate without due process well, I think a person or person(s) who run for office and have accusations of sexual misconduct, abuse or pedophiles, I think they should be disqualified and run after they are able to prove their innocence if that IS the case.
I will make one last comment, the Republican party not only funded Moore but they along with Trump are promoting him because you know, they don't want a liberal in office (with a decent record), they want someone at any cost to fill that seat because they will vote for the extreme Republican agenda. This just sickens me. Party over country. I find this to be a double standard and it's wrong on every level.09/12/2017 #10 Brian McKenzieThe backlash is in the works - #MGTOW has the helm. Do not give attention time, attention, assistence, consideration nor funding to them. Do not work for them, with them nor around them. Plus up on a bodycam - and quit talking to them - at all. The full nuclear option, scorched earth. Complete EMCON - if there is no contact, there can be no insinuation nor accusation of crime.
Anything less is hopscotching in a minefield while singing Disney show tunes.09/12/2017 #7 Jerry FletcherThe times they are a changin' and not for the better, he said. I'm not so sure of that. I almost believe this is a kinder world where someone being outed has it done very publicly. Before it was used for all kinds of surreptitious control on all sides of the equation. Now, the people that would control through intimidation are without a platform. More importantly, the individuals that had no sense of guilt about their behavior can't walk away. Society is damning them with the guilt they should already have acknowledged.08/12/2017 #6 Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand AmbassadorGreat post, Jim. When people get on the bandwagon, just for the sake of doing so or to selfishly prove their own point, the real issue becomes blurred. This has to be highly insulting to the real victims. I agree with @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian View moreGreat post, Jim. When people get on the bandwagon, just for the sake of doing so or to selfishly prove their own point, the real issue becomes blurred. This has to be highly insulting to the real victims. I agree with @Paul "Pablo" Croubalian, and @Charlene Norman - this stuff is seriously out of hand, and the fun factor in making friends is challenged. Close08/12/2017 #3 Paul "Pablo" CroubalianWell, Jimbo, you took the words right out of my mouth, or to be literal, my laptop screen. I deleted my similar post lest I be accused of plagiarism.
This stuff is getting seriously out of hand. Not a day goes by without a new accusation, but we rarely hear of anything real. Some of the accusations are really "out there."
Time magazine declared #MeToo to be its Man of The Year. . . I hope that's fake news. I wonder if all those hundreds of thousands realize that their #MeToo story belittles the real #MeToo stories.
People have really been harassed, attacked, and victimized. That's unacceptable. To equate someone discretely checking out a behind with those other real horrors is ludicrous and insulting to true victims.
That hashtag sums it up. . . me too about just about everything, especially innuendo (which is not "suppository" in Italian, but may as well be).08/12/2017 #2 Charlene NormanBrilliant post. From a selfish point of view, I hate what this world has become because it further strips away the fun factor from working and making friends. In the old days, before everything was so damned politically correct and policy-ed, people actually had fun. There was good-natured, innocent FUN. This awful "everything is always about sex and I am uncomfortable and you cannot make me feel otherwise cuz I am always right" fantasy we find ourselves living in today sucks the soul completely out of everything. There is not enough person to person interaction today thanks to the mistaken belief that technology is where we must be at and this death in democracy as you call it further widens the people to people divide. Keep beating your tom tom @Jim MurrayJim Murray@Jim Murray. I pray enough someones will listen and actually do something because of it.
- Producer08/12/2017Reflections in a cemeteryI suppose it’s inevitable that visits to a cemetery inspire us to pause and to reflect upon our mortality. I have found myself often reflecting upon my own life, with its trials and tribulations and acknowledging that all whose mortal remains lie...
Comments09/12/2017 #16 Lisa VanderburgCemeteries are often the only place of tranquility within to think! But while our northern family tend to go for donate / cremate, our Chilean lot LOVE their funeral plots! I have utmost respect but little sentimentality towards cadavers, of which I plan to be one day :)09/12/2017 #15 Cyndi wilkins#12 Ahh..must be a thing among you Army boys. My dad was a paratrooper in the 82nd Airborne stationed at Ft Campbell , KY during the Korean War...He liked his cognac too...Must be why I tend to fancy the amber liquors myself from time to time... It's also where he developed a fine repertoire for dirty jokes;-)09/12/2017 #14 CityVP 🐝 ManjitI do see cemeteries as a place with much deeper reflective quality, but equally I am drawn to obituary columns, many times the only mention of many people in a world we assume everyone shares their life or their story. The reality is that many people do not. The difference between the obit and the funeral is time span. Gravestones are multi-generational, whereas obits are generally in the moment, unless it is anniversary that people want to share.08/12/2017 #9 Cyndi wilkins@Ian Weinberg... Interesting I should connect with your post today...As the anniversary of my father's passing last New Year's Eve has weighed heavily on my mind with the approaching holiday, I began feeling very ill...flu-like...nausea...headache...loss of appetite...the whole nine yards. For the past several weeks I just couldn't seem to shake the dang thing.
The other day I reached a crisis point and canceled my clients and spent the day in bed...I slept all day and eventually emerged from a state of exhaustion with an awareness that my grieving process was taking a turn to acceptance...I awoke to the smell of my dads favorite tobacco...I always filled a stocking for him every year for Christmas that included a can of Borkum Riff Whiskey pipe tobacco...He always told me it was his favorite gift...and I just received mine...I visit from my dad;-) Merry Christmas daddy!08/12/2017 #8 Randall Burns#7 Wow! @Ian Weinberg That's sounds absolutely fascinating, I would be honored, (and I'm sure I would learn a lot), Yes let's discuss. I don't think you've seen this but here's a post I wrote about stress;
May give you some more insights.08/12/2017 #7 Ian Weinberg#5 Thanks @Randall Burns I've been meaning to tell you that I'm intrigued by your world of chefdom! There are multiple layers of reality in that kitchen, extending way beyond the neuropsychological. And since you've already described the 'Zen' of it all, I think it goes into that quantum/mystical space. Perhaps we should consider jointly writing the neuroscience and Zen/quantum physics of the chef's domain?08/12/2017 #5 Randall BurnsGreat piece @Ian Weinberg, I strongly agree that our emotional/psychological states carry far more influence on our physical bodies than most people give credit for. Something I tell my cooks when they're feeling "sick", disassemble the word "disease", and you have "dis ease". Many times when they're feeling the stress and pressure it will affect them physically. Often it is just the recognition of the correlation of the psychological "dis ease" affecting the physical state that helps relieve symptoms. I realize that is a little simplistic but I believe the recognition is a step in the right direction.
great post!08/12/2017 #3 Paul Walters@Ian Weinberg " takotsubo syndrome (named after an octopus trap in Japanese)," again one learns things each day. Wish I had known that when I wrote my book of short stories. One involves an eminent surgeon who is desperate to convince the medical fraternity that dying of a broken heart is real!!! Thanks again for a truly awesome post!
- Producer08/12/2017One thousand scarsOne thousand scars...by Kim Wheeler Let me begin by painting you a vivid picture...I was sitting in my lounge when I was suddenly hit by the realisation of how crap my life had become...I reeled at the reality, my mind imagined all my...
- Producer08/12/2017Mercy; a winter taleThe child, capped and jacketed, little more than a scrap, stood stock-still in the snow. The only light that shaped him came from this cabin, and it was poor at that. She'd seen him before, from this very window, unflinching and immune...
Comments08/12/2017 #15 Randall Burns#14 In your perspective @Lisa Vanderburg maybe you "dropped the ball", but I don't see it. Sometimes the best new recipes/dishes are created from "dropping the ball". Did you ever see the movie "Tortilla Soup"? Great movie in it's own right but with fantastic food, in one scene the Chef is serving a banquet and one of the cooks screws up the dessert, the Chef recuperates nicely by reworking it, coming up with a new dish which everyone receives positively without even knowing there was a problem. :-)08/12/2017 #11 Randall Burns#7 HaHa! Absolutely @Lisa Vanderburg I had a feeling you were going to say that, hence the magic of the piece. I can see it in 2 ways, 2 ways so far removed from each other, extreme opposite ends of the spectrum, both feasible, believable, both brilliant, from the very same story line. Amazing that it elicited both reactions from me at the same time, (still does).
Yes life is like that and I talk about perspectives and perceptions ALL the time.
Well done!08/12/2017 #1 CityVP 🐝 ManjitOh darn Lisa you have a magical way with words, now I wish I used this piece in Interpretative Reading project. For sure reading from Heart of Darkness by Joseph Conrad fit what I wanted to do, but it would have been even more satisfying to read the flow of words that made this a wonderful read.
- Producer05/12/2017"I Hate to Read But I Love to Write."It seems we'd rather pee on an electric fence than read a book these days.“Never judge a book by its movie.” JW Eagan“There are three kinds of men,” Will Rogers once said, “The one that learns by reading. The few who learn by observation. The rest...
Comments08/12/2017 #41 Robert CormackWe like fast information, @Preston Vander Ven. Unfortunately, fast information is usually instantaneous, meaning without a lot of thought. I'm an editor for The Wake Up Call, and it's amazing how many pieces are sent to me that were obviously dashed off. Gert and I have discussed what it takes to write a thoughtful post. I admitted I take between 8 and 10 hours. This sounds absolutely ridiculous to 90 percent of writers on these sites, but either you labor over something or you throw things out there, hoping something sticks to the wall. I call that "jabber writing."#3908/12/2017 #40 Lada 🏡 PrkicRobert, your excellent post finally explained what's behind emoji comments or one-word comments like "wow" - a desire for expressing oneself as cleanly as our grunting ancestors. :)
Sometimes I also ask myself what else I could do with all the time I spent in reading. I'm still searching for an answer. :)07/12/2017 #39 Preston 🐝 Vander VenI will admit, I do not enjoy reading emoji pictures. It is a foreign language to me. My reading of books was decreased over the last three years, yet my reading of blogs has increased probably 100 times. I am not sure what I enjoy more. I am still kind of old fashioned, liking my favorite authors.07/12/2017 #38 Randall Burns#34 I had an incredible epiphany this week @Susan 🐝 Rooks, the Grammar Goddess about how much I actually learn through writing,
https://www.bebee.com/producer/@randall-burns/why-i-write07/12/2017 #34 Susan 🐝 Rooks, the Grammar GoddessWell, @Robert Cormack, I read constantly. The library is my fvorite place in the world, except for my little house where I read voraciously. I can't imagine not reading; I have been doing so all my life, supposedly (according to my late mother) I was reading when I was two. Books have always been important to me.
And by reading, I learn! I don't learn from my own stuff; I learn from what others write.06/12/2017 #29 Robert CormackInterestingly, @Harley King, I think it's the Boomer parents, bragging about NOT reading books that rubbed off on their children. I think it's safe to say if you don't have books around the house, children aren't inspired to read. My grandfather, who lived with us until he was 99, had bookshelves full of Dickens, Shakespeare and others (he was a Shakespearean actor). Of course it rubbed off on me. How could all those books not rub off?#2706/12/2017 #27 Harley King#21 @Robert Cormack. I am speechless. Shocked. Sad. I would not go to a doctor who did not study his/her craft. I would not use a plumber who had no knowledge of plumbing. Yet, people think they can write without studying their craft through reading. People think they can paint without acknowledging the masters who have gone before. We all stand on the shoulders of those who have paved the way for our success.
I do not think reading is a generational change. I know Baby Boomers who are proud of the fact that they don't read. There are still many Millennials who love to read.
I also believe this lack of reading begins with the parents. My 40 year old daughter and my 9 year old daughters both love to read. The nine year old has read 15 books in the last 4 months. And I am not talking about picture books. These are 200 and 300 page novels. I read to my children from very young. I believe it starts with the parents. If the parents love to read and encourage it, most children will enjoy reading.
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